Anger is a powerful emotion, but it is not a bad thing. It is an energy that is triggered to let you
know that something is wrong. Here are somethings that make me angry:
It is how you choose to focus the energy that can become a problem.
It is how you choose to focus the energy that can become a problem.
Understanding what your triggers are and then how you handle
the situation is important.
Are you simply reacting to a situation that upsets you? For example, the driver in front of you is
not driving properly. You are angry
because you think that person should be doing something else, and maybe you
think that the person should be punished for not driving properly. You may think, “ I’ll show him”. And you may swerve in front of the person to
demonstrate how wrong he is and to punish him for his wrong doing. What you are doing is being reactive to a situation and you have
become upset and caused havoc in your own psychology and physiology because of
an event that you really have no control over.
Here might be another way to handle the situation: You decide to be proactive with your anger and choose to ignore the situation as
there is nothing you can really do to change it. You decide to go home and
write a blog on what it means to be a good driver, you teach your children good
driving techniques, you practice deep breathing exercises to strengthen your
inner calm so others cannot push your buttons so quickly.
Being mindful takes time and patience. It is wisdom in action and it is much more
powerful than being impulsive. There is
a time and place to react quickly when one is angered, but learning the
difference can be beneficial in many
ways.
So here is a link to a course that I created and you can
take it for free (lucky you!!).
The following information will offer you more ideas on
controlling anger:
A children’s book, but with a lot of good information about
how to control anger.
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