Defeat

Have you been hurt, knocked down, lied to, used, or in some other way defeated? The following link shares some stories of people who have had to overcome defeat. It seems that we all have to get up and show up each day, no matter what. Find something to fight for, something to believe in and it will bring you back to a sense of purpose in your being. Be loving to others and yourself each day, and that will help you feel more powerful. Read more: here

Life Path

If you lost your passion somewhere along the way, take a deep breath and move on, it will be ok. Life is showing you the way. Remember the song: If you want to listen to it, you can find it here Do you know where you're going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? do you know? Do you get what you're hoping for? When you look behind you there's no open door What are you hoping for? Do you know? Once we were standing still in time Chasing the fantasies that filled our minds You knew i loved you, but my spirit was free Laughing at the question that you once ask me Do you know where you're going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? do you know? Now, looking back in all we pass We've let so many dreams just slip through our hands Why must we wait so long before we see How sad the answers to those questions can be? Do you know where you're going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? do you know? Do you get what you're hoping for? When you look behind you there's no open door What are you hoping for? do you know? Well, we may not always know, but keep the passion in life. Make sure you connect with something you love each day. You can make a difference, even if it is a small one. Here is some wisdom for you to use. http://www.andreabalt.com/wisdom-bites-for-dreamers-doers/

Anger

Anger is a powerful emotion, but it is not a bad thing.   It is an energy that is triggered to let you know that something is wrong.   Here are somethings that make me angry: It is how you choose to focus the energy that can become a problem.

Understanding what your triggers are and then how you handle the situation is important.

Are you simply reacting to a situation that upsets you?  For example, the driver in front of you is not driving properly.  You are angry because you think that person should be doing something else, and maybe you think that the person should be punished for not driving properly.  You may think, “ I’ll show him”.  And you may swerve in front of the person to demonstrate how wrong he is and to punish him for his wrong doing.  What you are doing is being reactive to a situation and you have become upset and caused havoc in your own psychology and physiology because of an event that you really have no control over.

Here might be another way to handle the situation:  You decide to be proactive with your anger and choose to ignore the situation as there is nothing you can really do to change it. You decide to go home and write a blog on what it means to be a good driver, you teach your children good driving techniques, you practice deep breathing exercises to strengthen your inner calm so others cannot push your buttons so quickly.

Being mindful takes time and patience.  It is wisdom in action and it is much more powerful than being impulsive.  There is a time and place to react quickly when one is angered, but learning the difference can  be beneficial in many ways.

So here is a link to a course that I created and you can take it for free (lucky you!!).

The following information will offer you more ideas on controlling anger:

A children’s book, but with a lot of good information about how to control anger.

  

 Controlling angerbefore it controls you

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Sixteen tips for controlling anger, based on yourpersonality

May is Mental Health Month

Mental Health Month

http://www.northtampabehavioralhealth.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/18/2014/05/Newsletter-May-2014.pdf

May is mental health month.  Mental health is one of the most ignored areas in the health field.  One’s physical health is seen as more important, I guess because it can be seen.  However, studies have shown that physical illness is often related to mental health. 

Also, New news indicates that being exposed to bullies can be mentally harmful.

One report indicates that Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor's office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.

Read more here

So why is there such a stigma treating mental health as a bad thing?  Why do some people say to others, “You need counseling!” As if getting counseling were a bad thing?  Why is physical pain acceptable, but mental anguish seen as a weakness? 

Mental strength is important to be able to function in life, but having a mental breakdown is often seen as a shameful thing.

Doesn't it seem that if more people were supportive of good mental health and did not shame people who are struggling that things would be better for all people?

It seems people are more tolerant of children struggling with mental health issues, than adults.  I suppose that adults  are supposed to know better and be able to figure things out better.

Life is a struggle and we all battle something each and every day.  Take time to take care of your mental health.  Think about how you might be taking care of your body,or your home, you are mindful of what you see.  Be mindful of the inner workings as well, for that is the generating center of everything else.

Physical exercise is important, as well as mediation and eating healthy foods.  If you neglect any of these, then you may find that your mental health suffers as well.  Balance in life can be difficult, but if more people started with working from the inside out, rather than the other way around, then coping with stress would not be such a struggle.