Conflict

Conflict

Isn’t it nice to be clear on stuff?  For example, you plan a trip and you know where you are going and how to get there, you have everything in order.  It will be wonderful. You get in your car and travel along quite nicely for a long while, and suddenly  you have a flat tire, out in the middle of nowhere. Your jack is not working properly.  Uh-oh! The conflict begins. You may belittle yourself for not checking the jack, or you may blame someone else. Or, you may find that it is not that big of a deal and know that somehow you will figure it out. In this way, you allow the experience to be your guide and you are able to flow with the situation. But it is rarely the case.

Life in the physical form seems to be a constant battle.  I love my meditation where there is peace, serenity, and everlasting beauty, but then I must return to the physical plane and face the many conflicts that seem to be inherit within it.

However, conflict can be a guide to help us grow and make necessary changes in our life.  Certainly, the changes are not always welcome, as they are not a part of our master plan, but if we allow it, we will learn valuable lessons from the experience.

Conflict is not comfortable for most of us, and for some it is downright horrifying, but it seems it is here to stay nonetheless.   Conflict is always a challenge, some welcome it, most don’t.

 You can use the storm of conflict to your advantage, and after the dust has settled, you will be able to see more clearly how the experience has benefited you.  If you do not find any benefit, then you may find yourself being angry and bitter, unable to move on from the experience and stuck in a place of constant torment.

If you are stuck in a tormented place, then it is time to get more input into the situation, so that you are able to change your perspective and move on.  You may do this by talking to family, friends, or a trained professional. You may find solace in self-help material, whether written, or audio-visual.

Here are a few other places that comment on conflict:

 Conflict Perspective

 Conflict inrelationships 

 Conflict in theworkplace

Ecclesiastes3:1-8 

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When couples experience conflict, they are 45% less likely to feel pessimistic about their relationship if they can recognize feelings of caring from their partner during the disagreement.   You aren’t friends . . . or at least you don’t act like it. Friends support each other when needed, enjoy each other’s company, and make each other laugh. In studies of people in happy relationships lasting more than three decades, the quality of friendship between the partners was the single most frequently cited factor in the relationship’s success. Hi, Cass, it’s Laura! Today I want to share with you the results of some ground-breaking new research about relationships . . . It shows that even as complicated as relationships can be, there are really just a few simple mistakes that make an otherwise good relationship go bad: You aren’t being good sharers. And this isn’t about sharing bank accounts or closet space; it means sharing what you think, what you love and who you really are. Couples with a high degree of intimacy—who shared their innermost thoughts—were 62% more likely to describe their relationship as happy.   You don’t argue enough (seriously!) But you have to argue in the right way, with respect, care and love, focused on finding compromises and solutions to any disagreements that arise (and they do arise!) When couples experience conflict, they are 45% less likely to feel pessimistic about their relationship if they can recognize feelings of caring from their partner during the disagreement.   You aren’t friends . . . or at least you don’t act like it. Friends support each other when needed, enjoy each other’s company, and make each other laugh. In studies of people in happy relationships lasting more than three decades, the quality of friendship between the partners was the single most frequently cited factor in the relationship’s success. 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A Vision

I have a vision of seeing life with possibilities instead of problems.

The interNET. Is it not wonderful? In so many ways it helps people to help themselves, it allows people to reach out to others and connects people to talents and capabilities.

Would it be possible to have a society or a world do the same?  Would it be possible to reach out and help someone each day and that person would do the same for someone else?

Could we then create a net of life, rather than a hierarchy as we have now? Possibly, if more people would think more toward possibilities instead of problems.  So, with that said, I would like to share this story with you.

Namaste

DEPRESSION

 You may notice that I put depression in all caps, that is because when it shows up, it can be overwhelming. I share this uncomfortable condition and I have had to work with it myself at times so it does not consume me.  I have found the cognitive therapy to be the most helpful thing, combined with exercise and meditation.  I have taken medication in the past and feel that perhaps it was somewhat helpful, but I did not like the side effects that always come with it. Life is hard and it seems harder for some than others, but it is still a matter of getting up and showing up each day that gets us through.
I found an article that I would like to share with you. PTSD and Depression: