4/7/13 First, I will tell you a few things I have found to be true in life. I call this my Cassology, not that it is true for everyone, but I have found it to be true in my life and it may be true for you as well. So here it goes:
Life is hard, don't expect that if you are good you will get good. Life is a struggle and change is hard. I don't know if it is at all painful for a caterpillar to become a butterfly, but for humans, it seems, it is difficult and we usually undergo some suffering before we can create our own metamorphosis.
In order to allow for change in our lives, we need to avoid getting stuck in the past. So many people are haunted by woulda, shoulda, coulda and for that I would say, how much can you be in the present? I use the example of Lot's Wife. . Here is more on the
biblical story if you would like to read it. I see it as this: If you look backwards in your life, you can get stuck and as salt preserves(the memories) it can also keep you stuck in the past till you find that you cannot move forward. Go forward, staying stuck does not help anyone. Use what you have learned to move on, don't speed a lot of time beating yourself up.
If we compare life to a garden, then we must focus on what we are growing and not the weeds. So if a person wants to have a nice relationship, focus on what is going well and not what should be better. We will have problems, but if we use what is workable, then we can be more productive and enjoy the fruits of our labors. The weeds will show up anyway and we will control them as we are able, but don't make them the focus or you will not be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
Pick 2-3 things that you want to achieve and stay on the path towards making them happen, do not wander off the path. You will be a happier person if you stay focused. You will experience more joy and freedom than if you wander around and achieve nothing.
